Trustworthiness – Holding with Amaanah
Bismillāh.
This is a reminder first to myself, written in need, not from a place of knowing, but hoping.
If it benefits you too, then All Praise is due to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَىٰ alone.
Trust is not only built through keeping secrets or fulfilling tasks. It’s built when we feel safe in someone’s presence.
When our emotions are not used against us.
When our struggles are not repeated.
When our vulnerability is held like an amaanah. A trust, not a talking point.
In Islaam, trustworthiness is a mark of faith.
“He who is not trustworthy has no faith, and he who does not keep his covenant has no religion."
— (Mishkat al-Masabih 35)
The Prophet ﷺ was known as al-Amīn - The Trustworthy, long before he was known as a messenger.
It was his character that made people listen to his words.
💬 A Letter to Myself
Dear self,
When someone opens up to you, they’re handing you something fragile.
Don’t break it.
Don’t parade it.
Don’t forget that Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَىٰ is watching how you handle what’s been placed in your care.
Whether it’s a secret, a responsibility, or a person’s honour - it’s an amaanah.
And every amaanah will be asked about.
Be the sister that others feel safe with.
Be the woman who knows how to protect what matters - both in the seen and unseen.
🧵 What I’m Trying to Strengthen
🗝 1. Private Conversations Stay Private
No vague mentions of “someone said…”
No emotional venting at someone else’s expense
No resharing someone’s story for “advice”
🎯 2. Reliability in Small Things
If I say I’ll call, I call
If I promise to check in, I do
If I take on a task, I follow through
🕯 3. Trust in Character
Not prying into others’ pasts
Not making assumptions about people’s intentions
Giving people room to grow without constantly reminding them who they were
📝 Practical Ways to Cultivate Amaanah
Don’t promise unless you intend to fulfil - even casually
Pause before repeating anything: Was this mine to share?
Create an emotional “vault”: a space in your heart where others’ stories are kept safe
Make du‘a for those who trust you. Ask Allah it keeps your niyyah pure سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَىٰ
📖 Anchored in Qur’an and Sunnah
“Verily, Allah commands you to render trusts to whom they are due…”
— Sūrah an-Nisā’ (4:58)
“The signs of a hypocrite are three: when he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he is entrusted, he betrays the trust.”
— (Sunan an-Nasa'i 5021)
“Every one of you is a shepherd, and every one of you is responsible for his flock.”
— (Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 206)
🌸 Final Reflections
There are hearts in your care.
Maybe as a friend, a sister, a daughter, or a spouse.
Treat every one of them like a trust.
Being trustworthy isn’t just about other people trusting you.
It’s about being trustworthy in the eyes of Ar-Raqeeb (the Ever-Watchful).
With love always,
still striving, still learning — your sister in need of Allah.
