Sakeenah – Creating Calm in Your Presence
Bismillāh.
This is a reminder first to myself, written in need, not from a place of knowing, but hoping.
If it benefits you too, then All Praise is due to Allah سبحانه وتعالى alone.
Some people walk into a room and immediately bring warmth.
Their voice soothes, their manner reassures, and their very presence invites calm.
Sakeenah - a tranquility gifted by Allah to hearts anchored in Him.
“He it is Who sent down calmness (sakīnah) into the hearts of the believers so that they may grow more in faith along with their faith.”
— Sūrah al-Fatḥ (48:4)
In a time of overstimulation, drama, and quick tempers, sakeenah is a rare but radiant quality.
And it's something we can seek, cultivate, and carry with us into our homes, our friendships, and our dealings.
💬 A Letter to Myself
Dear self,
You do not need to match the chaos.
You do not need to raise your voice to be heard.
You do not need to chase attention to be valued.
You were created to carry calm.
To reflect the serenity of a heart tethered to dhikr.
To bring sakeenah where there is noise, and quiet where there is conflict.
Let people associate your name with ease, not pressure.
Let your presence be a reminder of Allah سبحانه وتعالى, not just by words, but by your actions.
🕯 What I’m Trying to Nurture
☁️ 1. Stillness in Speech
Speaking less, with more presence
Avoiding frantic tones or rushed responses
Slowing my breathing and my thoughts before I speak
🧺 2. Calm in Conflict
Not matching raised voices or hostility
Walking away when things escalate
Responding with “Let’s revisit this later” rather than arguing now
🪔 3. Sakeenah at Home
Playing Qur’ān softly in the background
Lighting a candle, slowing down dinner prep, making it feel like a space of rest
Greeting my family with peace, not pressure
📝 Practical Steps to Radiate Sakeenah
Begin your day with morning adhkaar .
Identify what triggers your stress response and find one new way to respond calmly.
Declutter one small space in your home each week - emotional sakeenah often starts with physical calm.
Choose to speak slower today. Not necessarily less, just more intentionally.
📖 Anchored in Revelation
“Then Allah sent down His tranquility upon His Messenger and upon the believers…”
— Sūrah at-Tawbah (9:26)
“And We bound [i.e., made firm] their hearts…”
— Sūrah al-Kahf (18:14)
“…the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth humbly, and when the ignorant address them, they say: ‘Peace.’”
— Sūrah al-Furqān (25:63)
🌸 Final Reflections
Calm is not weakness.
It is the signature of a heart close to its Rabb.
May your presence become a shelter for others.
With love always,
still striving, still learning — your sister in need of Allah.
